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Sylvia Evans

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Well there you go then.l Don’t know whether to laugh or cry. So decided to laugh. I actually for the first time in almost a year had the opportunity to get out there and paint. . Around the corner from where I live about a ten minute walk away is a steep uphill pathway surrounded by a copse and covered in bluebells . I sussed it out this morning on my dog walk and thought if I drove there and parked it woukd save a bit of carrying being the lazy so and so I am. But the lane is narrow with not many passing places . So the one and only house has a in and out drive. So being the thoughtful little soul I am , I knocked on the door and asked if I could park inside their drive whilst I painted. Yes no problem . So off I went this afternoon full of joy. Parked car... designated space . Climbed steep path to bluebell wood... set up , bugger , left water on hall table no probs, there is a stream at the bottom of the hill . Always have a plastic container for dog. Filled two from stream...almost fell in. Giggled... stuck a sweetie from the depths of the glove compartment into my mouth.... ugh , foul . Spit out, it was a dog treat. The dog must be mad to think they are treats, no wonder she likes my stuff better. Climb hill. Settle down, forgot my rigger. Ok get over it. Happily getting into the swing of actually painting .BEEP! BEEP BEEP, me thinking someone is in trouble look all around , no , I then get a whole vile pile of disgusting verbage from the owner of the drive. I apologised and said I had spoken to his wife . Wow was he angry , threatening both me and his wife . He was a bit taken aback when I told him to leave his wife alone and stop his stupid shouting. As you can imagine I came home. So painting out of the window. Men who think they can just get away with being verbally abusive to women are the biggest cowards .they never do it to men I have discovered.., but I have a concern for his wife.

David Perry

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I'm.glad you told him to stop.his rudeness . It's a shame you had that, it's a shame his wife has it too. Still, on the bright side you know what a dog treat tastes like 😀
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Jim Morris

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Ber assured Sylvia, men who are abusive to women are not men and disgust most men who are. As for bullies, one hasn't been born yet with an ounce of bravery or self-respect..or they wouldn't be bullies. As a kid I was bullied regularly at school till I learned to fight back. I've carried that lesson on and never suffered it since. Not that long ago I was walking the dog when two late-teen louts behind us thought it hilarious to imitate barking at him. Alfie isn't twelve inches high but full of guts. Okay, laugh over, but the pair began to follow us keeping it up until I got fed up. You should have seen their faces when I tied the dog's lead to a gatepost, took my coat off and marched right up to them. I just said, "Is there something you wanted...boys?" The answer from one hero."er, have you got the time please?" I just laughed in their faces and walked off.

Michael Robinson

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Actually Jim, I think that might have been a rather foolish thing to do. What if those boys had stuck a knife in you?? You hear such terrible things happening today, I think I would have ignored them.
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Bad manner and rudeness is avoidable, and in many instances is not necessary, no doubt about that, but what we shouldn't forget is men also are at the sharp end of a woman's bullying. Many men suffer in silence, I often have to approach men in the course of my work, for one reason or another, and in this respect I keep this in mind when I explain the error of their ways, mainly leaving their dog/s run amongst the stock. This is something I will not tolerate, servility and politeness has worked...so far.

Michael Robinson

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And the bullying phenomenon is not exclusively male. I too was bullied at school, an all girls school. Also the worst boss for bullying I ever worked for was a woman. That said I am so sorry Sylvia that your first plein air painting opportunity was spoiled by this very unpleasant man. Until you got to that point your post was really humourous, especially regarding the dog "treat". Was the resulting pic the one I saw and commented on in the Gallery?
With Sarah, Phil, Ellen, Rose the dentist, and the granddaughter whose name I forget.

Robert Jones, Napa

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Bullies are despicable whatever their gender. The worst I've known in very recent times is a man who was foul to everyone, and then when they responded accused them of bullying him - there has to be a cognitive failure in these people somewhere. And to even the, er, score in view of the above - perhaps the worst bully I encountered was a woman chief executive who so bullied and undermined a volunteer that he died of a stress-induced heart attack. Walking away from confrontation is generally good advice, but there are also times when you either stand up to it and respond, or let it batter you into the ground. There's more than one form of bullying, too - the less obvious it is, the more insidious it can be.